Bisexuals Lack Support — and It’s Literally Killing Us

For the past 20 years I’ve seen “biphobia,” or prejudice and hatred against bisexuals, go unchecked by gays and lesbians in spaces where bisexuals should be welcomed as fellow queers. Instead, we are commonly greeted with stereotypes — told we’re “selfish,” “greedy,” “cheaters,” that we’re “in denial” and really straight or gay, that we “need both to be happy.” As a result, when the bisexual/pansexual/queer youth of today bravely venture into their first gay bar, the same thing happens to them that happened to me in 1999 — they are told they don’t exist. They quickly learn, like I did, that many gays and lesbians don’t really want to date bisexuals, let alone support them.